Hi Anita, thanks for responding!

1. I felt that he was rescuing me from a bad situation at the time. my husband was still messaging me and being somewhat harassing. I had moved in with my only female friend at the time and she was becoming very critical and using me for her errands and extra money when I was already paying her. My boyfriend had been their to listen during all of this, especially when I had a lot of guilt about my past and I thought I wouldn’t be able to find anybody else. He kept telling me that I was a great person. Also even though I have been supporting myself, it felt nice to be with someone who had their life together whereas my husband made me take care of the majority of our finances, finding places to live, etc.

2. My ex husband and I met in college and our relationship was fairly casual before marriage. I had been kind of a party girl so I felt like it was just time to settle down and we decided to get married. When I started working after graduation I became attracted to men who were more ambitious and I began to lose interest. I would spend a lot of my nights out with friends. he would yell at me because I had guy friends, and it was just constant fighting. I even asked him to go to therapy and he said no. I realized that I was with the wrong person but I felt so guilty about my actions. I would threaten to leave, he would get very upset and cry and I would stay. But I felt like I could have been more honest about it. He turned very nasty at the end but at the beginning was very sweet so I struggle to forget the good in him.

3. I feel vulnerable now because I really care what my new bf thinks about me and I feel like I would be devastated to lose him. I have been with a lot of men just to have a boyfriend when I really didn’t care much deep down. I have had several relationships also that turned abusive and the men were clingy and jealous. My boyfriend is completely the opposite and is not jealous or controlling in the least. I guess I still associate love with some jealous or crazy behavior and it’s hard not to constantly think something is wrong with me.

I hope that made some sense lol thanks 🙂