Dear Gigi:

I didn’t read the article you mentioned. I hardly ever do, not in the habit of doing so. Therefore I do not know what in that article I agree with and what in it I disagree with or will agree under certain circumstances and not other circumstances.

You wrote in your last post that you “had a good life as a child and never had to struggle”- you must mean that materially you didn’t have to struggle, to find food and shelter, that food and shelter were given to you. When you wrote “good life” you must mean you had food, shelter, toys, right? Material things…

Your description of your childhood is that of a bad life, not a good life.

The criticism by your mother is horrendous, incredibly severe, unreasonable and abusive. The fact that neither she nor your father ever spoke to you about how wrong they were, how much they hurt you, makes a healthy relationship with either one of them in the present, an impossible thing.

The fact that you broke “the rules once in a while like staying out late”- I wonder that is all you did when being as severely abused as you have been. How can you expect to have been perfect in such an imperfect home. Not to mention that being perfect and following the rules all the time is impossible. Look at your mother and father- how often did they break the rules of being decent parents?

I feel anger, yet again, to read about another child being abused.

I need to take a break so to calm myself. Please do post again. I am interested in continuing our correspondence.

anita