Dear wingedmind:

I understood that you fantasize about sex, (having a baby and getting married), this is why I typed above that you “rush in your brain to solidify” the attachment you feel.

Before you start obsessing, you feel fear. Fear fuels the obsessing.

You feel attached to a guy, or you desire attachment to a guy. Then you feel fear, a fear imprinted in your memory from the time you were alone so often, away from your mother and father. That fear is triggered. The thinking part of your brain is now activated, trying to find a solution to the perceived danger:

You may be abandoned (danger)?

*Have a child and he will stay with you

* Get married and he will stay with you

* And have sex with him, this way he will feel attached to you (and you will make a baby)

Does this dynamic make sense to you?

anita