Dear Bonni_mor:

Imagining myself in your place, following the ending of a long term relationship and months of no contact, it would bother me too that he asked to spend graduation with me, whether I was graduating or not. I would reply to him: “It will not be appropriate for you to celebrate any event in my life with me because you aren’t and have not been in my life for a long time.”

That relationship is over and so, it is. Your life is your business: as far as why you are not graduating.. that is (again) not his business to speculate about or for you to discuss with him.

You will graduate, Bonni_mor, won’t you? Just later than expected, that is all.

Take good care of yourself and be gentle and patient with your recovery from this relationship. Please do post again.

anita