Hi Anita,

Did you had this definition ready or you just came out with it, I can not find a better way to put it!

Just describing redemption as a gift is phenomenal, as an unconditional state of mindset.
If I can imagine this state of mindset in a physical manner, it would be some thing like a Lego set.
Then you put the pieces together to form a shape, one can use it to build a car and another would use it to build a plane. And at some moment this toy could fall into pieces. I guess what am trying to say that forgiveness is a process building a bridge between 2 persons that would need constant maintenance from both sides.

“Being honest about his motivation and the abuse done” I guess that is the most critical point in redemption that an abused person can not ask for, if you can describe forgiveness as a gift, I can say that this is the gift card.

And the normal way is that you get in the gift shop and present your gift card to get your gift. It cannot go the other way around.

I guess it is just human nature, the tendency to forgive, and without these steps the forgiveness is just fake, it is just a paper bridge that fall by a small breath of air.

And till that you just need to step back and give the other side space to figure it out him self, or it will never be.

I feel I was judgemental/provocative in my before messages, and I apologies for that, but it was just a step leading us to our current state.

Correct me if am wrong?

Cya,