Anita,
He is unhappy and often angry because:
-he feels that people often misunderstand what he said or what he meant. He gets angry about this, because he thinks people are falsely accusing him of things. (his words… falsely accusing). It could be as simple as his “intentions” were to take out the garbage after 9 pm, but if take it out myself at 8 pm because I see it hasn’t been done, I have “assumed” that he wasn’t going to do it. (I just did it because it was there and I was going out the door).
-He gets angry and frustrated about things other people do. He has opinions about how things should have been done. (work related).
-He gets frustrated if he feels I have “mis understood” what he said the day before or previous week. He’s being very “exacting”. The words I used were A, B, C. You are saying B, C, D.
-He is very sensitive to what he considers criticism. (I am careful not to criticize, but a couple of times he chose to take it as criticism.). He will use the term “from my perspective… you criticized me”.

It’s a way of being that is centered on giving every action a judgement. Right. Wrong. Good. Bad. I like this. I don’t like that. I expect this. When I don’t get it, I am angry and frustrated.

And… people will tend to try and control those around them to GET the world to look like they want it to.

I don’t follow that method though.