Hi Gigi,

I am sure you have heard it said, that the most important relationship we can have is with ourselves. If we have a mindset that we are not loveable, that we’re different, strange, whatever the case may be, this is the energy and intention that we put out there. We basically shoot ourselves in the foot, so to speak. People, even on an unconscious level, pick up our energy and respond accordingly. If you put out the energy that you are an awesome beautiful women (and believe it, because it is true) and when I say beautiful, I am NOT referring to the external vessel (our body) I am referring to the very depths of your soul, you will find people drawn to you. We have a tendency to sabotage our relationships with others by our faulty beliefs about ourselves. Our body language is so powerful and it speaks directly from the mind. When you love yourself (not for anything great that you have done) but love yourself, the good bad and ugly, just as you are and really wrap your arms around yourself, you will begin to glow in a way that can not be hidden. Know that we need to learn to love ourselves based on nothing external, but for the beauty that we were created to be. Now that I have self-love, I look at people entirely different. I am no longer looking for someone to complete me, make me feel good about myself, or to get something from them that I feel I may be lacking. I look at all people through the eyes of love and compassion. I have all the love I need inside me. The love we are all looking for lies right inside us. When our self-love in nurtured, it makes it possible to actually see others as to how we may bless them in their pain. We don’t allow ourselves to be disrespected, and if we are, we are able to respond in a healthy way, rather than react in a negative way. We realize, their mistreatment of us has to do with their own demons. I encourage you this week, to walk up straight and tall, smile as you look at people, hold your held up high and believe that you are worth loving yourself. Put on positive energy and put it out there and see what happens, you might find it miraculous. Sending you love.

Ruthie