Dear shauck11:

I would very much like to help you with your Love Challenge of forgiving your ex group of friends. You want to forgive them for the purpose of freeing yourself from the anger in you. And you believe that if you understood why they turned against you and treated you so badly, then maybe the anger at them will leave you.

That group of friends was supportive and friendly to you until that “wall” incident, correct?

Will you share here what happened after that wall incident: tell me only the facts and the words used, not your feelings and intentions or what you think they felt and intended. Tell me only what they said and did to you and what you said and did to them.

I am an outsider to what happened and therefore may be able to see what you are too close to see, too emotionally involved.

Again, the purpose is to shed light on the friends’ motivation in hurting you, in hope that your understanding will promote forgiving them (releasing your anger at them).

Will wait for your reply, take your time so that your recollection is as factual and clear as possible.

anita