Dear porpoise:

I assume you do not have children in this marriage and if it is so, I surely wouldn’t bring a child into this marriage if I did choose to stay in it, not unless major changes took place and were established over long enough time.

My first inclination, if I was you, would be to end a one year marriage with no children with a man who gambled away your money without your permission.

You asked: “Shall I work on my marriage even though there is no trust”- you mean even though he gambled away your money multiple times (more than once) over a long time, without your knowledge? My answer is: no.

If I was you, if I am choosing to end the marriage, I would not tell him about your affair. Why complicate things unnecessarily? If you were to work on the marriage, that would be another matter.

Again, if I was you, based on the information in your post, I would relocate to another room in the home where you live, no longer be available for physical intimacy with your one-year husband and take it from there.

Please do post again.

anita