Hi Anita,

I will just change the subject her, because just what i experienced something derivative but the outcome is just amazing, at least for me. I just witnessed the Imam (the man who lead the people in prayer) of the mosque downstairs from home, bending this boys hand to his back to the extent the touched, he was in pain, and he was just laughing, and this other old man beating him on the back of his head, and these other 2 boys watching and laughing, I just could not bare it as usual and i intervened, i talked to him about the concept of hitting kids, my dads beating me and he admitted that he was wrong and that is why am like that! this just make me laugh when i thought about it latter.
When he could not argue any more about it, about hitting kids, he talked about hitting women, and that Prophet Mohamed said not to hit women hard, which means there is beating in Islam, i had no reply for that, and I just flipped when that kid was saying, yes bating is good, and i had to leave, i knew that there was no hope there, there was no that ounce of good.
i went up home and researched about it, and found this amazing story about Prophet Mohamed teachings regarding beating women, first i have to say that Prophet Mohamed never beat any of his wives, any servant, or even anything, animal or inanimate only did in war or when he saw someone was crossing the God limits, like crossing the laws, only for punishment which is driven from the crime it self, like if you kill someone you get killed.
so the issue of hitting women, was an still a huge global issue, so men at his time were hitting there women severely, and then prophet Mohamed told all the men to stop beating their women, just like that no beating, then one of closest friends of Prophet Mohamed came to him and told him that women were outrageously treating men when you forbidden the beating of women, so Prophet Mohamed gave them the permission to hit women but with rules, very strict rules that women are only beaten when you are scared of them doing something outrageous, if they are doing something that their men cannot live with, and first you speak with them, and then you do not make love to them, but still sleep with them in the them bed, and then beat them, and if they objected just you just let them be, leave them alone, divorce her! this is a verses from Quran,and there is no any clear message hear for beating, but men just would not see it, they were just used to it! so how can some one accept a beating if it is just does not mean beating here it means leaving them, leaving them for a while, leave home, if they objected you divorce them. but anyway the community was just stronger here, and am sure you know how much the communities opinion is very strong, but then when seventy women came and complained to prophet Mohamed he just said this amazing thing, and i just have to write it in Arabic, “ولا تجدون أولاءكم خياركم” meaning that you will not find any good in these men who beat their women. you will only find bad people who hits their women. and it is a very clear message, no good in beating, even if you believe that this verses in Quran means beating. and more prophet Mohamed when he saw that people are still beating their women, people with no good in them, he said that you do not hit women hard, or shameful, you do not brake a bone or make them bleed, he was just that compassionate man.
Then I learned that we are condemned when the men who are leading us in prayer are not good men, that is why I laugh when i remember that ” I just can not call him Imam” told me this is your opinion because you were beaten hard! we are just condemned! our end as Muslims will be by the hands of the ones teaching us Islam.
that is simply the world am living in here, but when i realized that i just could not be thankful to God that i was shown that incidence i would not have been introduced to that knowledge, you will not find good in people who beats each other, you will one find dad people , evil people who beats others for the heck of it! and i prayed and i cried for God to empower me to keep on going, i prayed for the first time not of fear or wanting something from God, or for believing i should thank God for a job, or some money, i just prayed for him for the knowledge he gave me, and that next time that when i see this man “so called Imam” i can easily tell him that there is no good in your heart!

Cya, Ziad,