Dear Anonymous:

You are welcome. When you meet someone, get to know that person before you get emotionally involved. It is that emotional involvement that stands in the way of seeing people the way they are.

I don’t know the particular story you are referring to, but most common it is not that you know a person and out of nowhere you find out that person is a something horrific, that is rarely the case. What is most often the case, is that the evidence is there and people are blind to it.

So if you keep your eyes and ears open and get to know a person, without operating under the influence of strong emotion, you will get a lot of information on the person. I hope you consider this and be less scared.

anita