Dear shauck11:

I re-read your two posts above as well as the last, all in efforts to promote better understanding of what happened. In that aim, I have three questions:

1. You wrote that a few days after the “wall” incident one of the friends in the group waited outside Drew’s door with a bat in case you came there to talk. How did you know that: did you indeed go there to talk with Drew, a few days after the “Wall” incident? If so, what did you want to talk with him about?

2. In your very last post you wrote that after you and Drew broke up, and you and him still spent time together in the same group of friends, that Drew’s troubled mental health became a concern to you and to the rest of the group, that you were all concerned for him and tried to help him. During the same time, you and Drew fought a lot.

My question is: if you were trying to help Drew, why did you participate in fight after fight after fight with Drew? Were you not concerned that fighting with him was hurting his mental health further?

3. You mentioned your alcohol use: was it before the breakup from Drew? After? Both?

How did your alcohol use affect your behavior with Drew and with the rest of the group?

anita