Dear K:

I am thinking that you are already going back to some normalcy for you in that you are not hurting so much. But I hope you don’t go back to exactly how you were before. If this relationship that ended was significant and meaningful to you, if there was love there, then I hope you are not the same person.

Expecting to be the same as you were before you met him is not realistic and probably not a good thing. This relationship, is more than a wound that happened and now you want to be healed from it. There was attachment, you lying on his chest hearing his heart beat, the safety in it, the courage it allowed you to feel and to be ready to make the move… the interactions with him, all these changed you.

If you would like, you can share about these changes, what you experienced that you are taking with you as you move on…?

anita