Dear Teresa:

Your daughter in law said that your grandchildren don’t understand. You can explain to your grandchildren that you are getting married. If you haven’t so far, introduce your husband-to-be to your grandchildren, and depending on their ages, explain to them how different your life is going to be, how you and your husband will be spending time together doing this and that.

Let them know you will still call them on the phone, let’s say every Tuesday and Saturday (just an example) and that you will visit them. Explain all that not in an alarmed way, an anxious, worried voice, but in a calm, ordinary voice , with a smile and a pleasant expression on your face, so they can see it is a good thing, you getting married and making changes. Let them see it is a good thing for you.

anita