Thanks again for your replies. I know how you feel Cath, my previous ex was very emotionally abusive to me and even when it ended badly I kept in contact with him and he used me for quite a long time. I hung out with him and slept with him in the hopes we would eventually get back together which never happened. All of this really damaged my self esteem.
I guess in hindsight it is easier not to have any contact. Even though that is very hurtful too. But maybe the recovery will be quicker?
My most recent ex contacted me after the non-reply to my text. Said something about his phone being dead. We chatted for a while, all light hearted. He has been doing nothing but staying at home since we broke up. Not meeting friends or going out etc. He sounds depressed. Towards the end of the call, he started crying and hung up. We’ve had no contact since. I just dont understand what he is doing. If he really feels this bad then why wont he get back together with me and make a plan to move in together??? Im not going to initiate any more contact with him because I feel I should just leave the ball in his court.