Dear annema:

Making the best choice, often enough, is followed by emotional pain, such as you are experiencing.

I understand your guilt about your children and as I wrote in the last post to you, four days ago, be there for them through this time. You are grieving and so do they. Comfort your children. Explain to them that it is very important to keep one’s promises to another and that he did not. So you are making a promise to your kids, to not only keep your promises to them, but to only allow people who keep their promises into their lives. Let them know you are very sorry for making this mistake of bringing into their life this man who did not keep his promises.

Attend to them throughout a period of time, encourage them to bring up the topic and allow them to express their feelings about it, whatever those feelings may be. All their feelings are valid, let them know they are, that their feelings are understandable and natural.

And then you have your own grief, sadness and relief. It will take time, so proceed, if you will, with a one-day-at-a-time mindset, one step at a time throughout the day. And do post here anytime.

Take good care of yourself:

anita