Dear annema:

Now I remember I read some of these things in your previous posts. This is telling me that he does have mental health issues of the kind that makes him unreliable.

When he put the half payment down, he tried to commit but became anxious, fearful and didn’t make the final payment or arranged the furniture to be delivered. I think it is fear that caused him to not follow through.

Maybe as a teenager he was too close to his mother, given the role of a replacement husband to her (because his father was unreliable and unavailable). And ever since, he avoid the final act of closeness, the kind he … suffered with his mother.

Do you know anything about his relationship with his mother? Does he live away from her, has been living away from her all his adult life? Did you sense distress on his part when he talked to you about her, a reluctance to talk? Anything he said about her that may reveal something..?

anita