He emailed me about some business (sending some items) and stated he did not want to break up and believes we can be a family.
This was my response:
“I did not want this either. At all.

Unfortunately you are incapable of keeping your word, following through, or able to admit you have serious issues with commitment. And I can’t have the kids constantly exposed to someone who does not keep their word.

The kids and I did not deserve to be put off for so long and for no apparent reason. I do not have faith in your word. At all. If you say you’ll do something, it is not done. I DO think you do not allow yourself to be the best you can be and honor your word. You need to figure out why you make promises and don’t follow through. Or at least admit it is a personality flaw and why.

I am no longer going to put the kids through this unless we have an absolute come to Jesus about what in your personality makes you this way, devise a plan to become a man of your word, you have a conversation with my parents, and you move here to be with us without delay. These are the deal breakers.”

I am giving him room to do something. So, now, here I sit with the hope that he is going to make drastic change and show up. That my words will be the things that slap him into reality that he has work to do. I’m sure they won’t be.