dear annema,

I have read your story and your interaction with Anita. Wonderful. Not your story, but your determination to find yourself in it. I completely understand you have your focus on him totally, but, my lovely friend.. I have to tell you, it is not about him, and not even about your children. It’s very funny, because just today, this one sentence just popped up in my head: when you know what you deserve, anything that does not match that, can and will not be a part of your experience. So, this guy, is showing you exactly, where you do not see and value yourself. Every little feeling you feel.. has already been with you for a long time, he just came to remind you of it. In a way, he’s a huge help. It’s not easy to feel all those feelings and allow them to talk to you, but I guarantee you, freedom is on the other side. in the mean time, Anita’s advice is golden, treat yourself well, do whatever you can think of to feel good about you and keep doing it. much love to you.