Dear bigglasses:

I think it is most important to deal with … the most important issue first, and that is stopping the verbal abuse of your children. This is way, way… way more important than cleaning he house, cooking, looking for new schools and everything else that you do. Indeed you are trying to do too much when there is one thing that by far is crucial for you to do and that is to stop verbally abusing your children.

Firs, stop the damage, Do-No-Harm.

Before you try o fix problems, stop creating and adding to problems. you will have less o fix later (and you may no be able o fix his a all) if you sop damaging he kids now.

You can still look your kids in the eyes and see the pain you created in their minds. You must see it, let yourself see it so that you appreciate the magnitude of the harm you created in their young, forming brains. Stop anything and everything else, and attend to that pain. Please, do it ASAP. And let me know what you experience and if you have new insight into your ability to no longer verbally abuse them no-matter-what.

anita