Dear sam1:

Before your experiences with those few guys, one losing his too-soon-loving feelings for you and the other never calling you back, where you as a child (way before dating started) rejected by a parent or both? If you were, those early experiences need to be processed.

Otherwise, with this guy and any other, you will need to adjust your expectations to reality and take it really slow. Notice when you get anxious and purposefully calm yourself. You have to come to terms with the nature of dating: that is that it takes a long, long time to get to know a person (without desperate needs and feelings clouding our ability to see the reality for what it is), to develop trust (based on who the person is, in real life, not in our fantasy and wishful thinking) and to have more and more experiences together. It simply takes a lot of time and attention-over-time. You can’t rush it by keeping tracks on who is texting how often.

anita