Dear christy:

My advice is that you assert yourself with him. Tell him: “(Name), I need you to no longer stop by my office. I understand that you need to talk and I do hope you can talk to me when we (you, your wife, etc) all get together socially. And what you can’t talk to us all together, I already suggested you talk to a good therapist.But not at work. I don’t want you to stop at my office or stop and come in. I want no visits to my office.” Something like that, and make sure he understood specifically what you don’t want him to do.

anita