Dear sona:

Yes, that would have been the right thing to tell your therapist, just what you wrote above: “I have a strong attachment with you and feel jealous when you talk about female friends..My mind creates stories and I feel that I am not wanted or loved..and I wish it was me..”

A competent therapist should be part-of-the-solution for you, not part of the problem. Sessions should not create a problem from you but problems should be addressed right there and then. Otherwise, you would need… to see another therapist to deal with the problems created with the first therapist and that wouldn’t make sense.

I am doubting the competency of your current therapist, in that he didn’t create a relationship with you that will encourage you to share with him what you shared so easily here, in less than two lines. The fact you shared it here but not with him, session after session, indicates to me that something is seriously amiss in your therapy, if it can even be called therapy in practice, at this point.

I didn’t understand your second paragraph. Would you like to re-write it for me?

anita