Dear sona:

I agree with you on “instead of saying he doesn’t hate me, shouldn’t we explore why this is so important to me that he should not hate me?” Absolutely, you got it. Exploring why you ask him a question, especially when you ask the same question repeatedly is very important.

Same when you told him you feel like the therapy is not working and you are afraid you will continue to see him till you are old, he should have explored with you what in the therapy is not working for you (most important!)

I suppose he is a paid therapist, that either he gets paid directly by you or by an insurance company, or otherwise he is getting paid by the hour for seeing you. This may be why he doesn’t mind to keep seeing you, and keep getting paid for years to come.

I am pretty much done with my evaluation of your therapy, based on your posts. It is my evaluation that he is not a competent therapist and is causing you damage.

I think you should terminate it as soon as possible.

anita