Dear elleno:

The fact that the guy is cold to you and that you are drawn to him anyway, is leading me to consider the possibility that you simply want out of your marriage and that you wanted out of your marriage for a long time, but felt badly about it so you repressed your desire to get out, trying to ignore it.

But that desire would not be ignored, so it jumped out of you, figuratively and latched on that guy, the first person it could latch on to so to draw you out of your marriage. I am thinking it is possible that it is not important who the guy is, it could have been anyone.

Do you want out; have you wanted out, for a long time?

anita