Hi Anita, unfortunately we are both very active in an online hiking group (actually about 10 different groups I think) and we have over 100 mutual friends that we both see quite a bit of. Our social circle is pretty tight. Even though I have unfollowed him on social media, I still see things about him in the online groups. I’ve made an effort to limit my time on social media lately to avoid seeing much about him. I did defriend the girl involved in all this. She ended up quitting the online groups (she made the mistake of telling people about the situation with my ex and people gossiped of course – she embarrassed herself to the point that she quit the groups we were all part of), so I’m not faced with seeing much of her.

He and I do still communicate. I know it would be best to cut off all communication, but we both hesitate to do that. I feel like I’ve lost so many friends over the last few years that it hurts to think I’ll be losing my friendship with him.