I doubt he is an amazing father to his other son. I really do. It may seem that way to you, but you only observed a little bit of how he behaves with his son. Many abusive parents behave lovingly in some circumstances.

If you stay with the man and he continues to abuse you as he is most probably will, then by proxy he will be abusing your child because for a child to be a witness to abuse is very scary and damaging. Also, as you get abused as a mother, you will not be able to be a good mother yourself because you will be too distressed, sick and unavailable to do a good job.

So you would be a good mother if you protect your child from abuse, be it direct abuse or indirect, they both hurt.

Anyway you look at it, once you are not confused, leaving this man is a very good idea. By the way, what is he on probation for?

anita