I had a similar but different experience.

We were in counselling three years ago. She never asked me to not bring anything up, but when it was brought up, later that night she would mock what I said. For example, I made a point that expressing anger is not always bad, that it can be positive as long as it is not rage & violent. I commented on how I had read a sportman’s autobiography & he had said he would practice at being angry for certain situations. At home, she said to me ‘I can’t believe you compared our love life to that man’.

I saw the same therapist alone and she told me I should not be in a relationship with my (now ex) partner as in her words ‘that lady knows how to push every one of your buttons’. She was correct as in that relationship, I did things I would never have dreamed of doing before, felt anger & frustration like never before and simply felt I could never be myself as being me seemed to be so wrong in my ex’s eyes. And strangely, I feel tonnes of guilt for things that happened and I don’t know why.

Now, my husband would go to therapy, but I used to call it holding court for him. He was very charming, and would actually lie to the therapist. Thankfully, they eventually saw through it. We would be walking in to a joint session (after he’d previously been in one solo) and he’d stop me in the parking lot to say something like “don’t bring up xyz because I told the therapist that I fixed it”. Something he hadn’t done. If I protested, I was a bad wife because I wasn’t supportive of him, and was trying to embarrass him.