Dear xenopustex:

Maybe it is better for you to not live with your mother. And maybe it will be worthwhile for you one day to move to a different town or city.

For now, why change your reputation as a tough prosecutor- it works for you professionally, doesn’t it? As far as the professional reputation affecting the social reputation among the women, particularly this woman, all you have to do is lead this woman to conclude something like: he is a tough prosecutor; who would have known he has a soft side? I had no idea and I feel so special, that of all the people who know him as a hammer, I am the special one, knowing this other side to him.

You can make an exception, at this point, an experiment of sorts, to be soft only with her one on one. See how that goes.

anita