Sorry i should have been more clear, the mistake was getting myself into the situation in the first place, (which in hindsight was done because i was under the influence). I see it as more of an assault but because of my reaction ( i froze) to a Councillor that is understandable that deals with issues like this. But my partner might not see it this way. I have been hurt and I am trying to come out of this stronger and wiser. the last thing i want to do is upset my partner, what if he ends the relationship? or never trusts me again? or worse does something he might regret to the guy that did this to me? Its been a month since the “incident” and telling him now only looks worse surely? 🙁 i just need help on how to let this go.