Hi Anita,

Thank you for posting this interesting concept. It’s a good reminder. There is someone I like and we do seem to be doing this motion dance also. And it doesn’t help that when I think he’s moved away, the next time we meet I might be a little distant to compensate and protect my feelings. And that in turn may make him move a little away in response to what may seem like less interest on my part. It’s so very complicated, isn’t it? Sigh. It even seems to apply to my husband – we are newly separated – and some days I might be feeling friendly when I see him, but he’s being an ass, and other days he may be willing to have a decent conversation,but I’m being a bitch that day! So it’s very hard to always be in sync with someone. And also very good to remember it most likely doesn’t have much or anything to do with you – could be work worries or even a tummy ache, which I know is often the reason I may be feeling out of sorts and not want to interact too closely with someone if I’m physically uncomfortable.

I think the best policy is what I am trying to do, in all my interactions, not just the male-female dating/divorcing situations, is to always approach from warm and friendly, open and positive place, expecting the best, and being prepared to give my best and spread my light and love. Whatever happens from there, at least I can be pretty sure it didn’t originate with me.