Dear strawberrygrrrrl:

Glad you posted here. I need to understand if you are trying to end contact with this person?

Or are you trying to keep in contact but feel less attached to him/ her?

Also, you wrote this person has been nasty to you and hurt you but you didn’t write anything that was abusive done by that person. Maybe the person was trying to set healthy limits with you, not wanting you calling/ ringing him/ her too often. This is not nastiness, but desirable and healthy limit setting. What is the nature of the person being nasty to you, in your view?

anita