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Dear asia288:
I like everything you wrote in your note to me, above. I agree with your understanding and want to point out one thing: you will probably feel guilty again, believing (inaccurately) that you exaggerated and it was all your fault etc. The feelings involved in this belief are likely to come back because these pathways in the brain (these beliefs and emotions involved) do not disappear. They may be asleep now and get weaker and weaker over time until they are insignificant, but it takes time simply because of physiology.
So next time you feel these old emotions, do not get alarmed, concluding wrongly that you made no progress or that maybe you are at fault after all. No, this is physiology, your thinking now is correct. When those emotions return, please come back to this thread and re-read it. Then post and every time I read a post from you, I will reply, with an extra reminder.
anita