Thank you so much Anita for your insight and reply!

#5: Yes, my husband is all of those things, however, what I neglected to state is that we aren’t sexually compatible and for that matter the same is said for our interests and level of confidence. He simply isn’t confident in himself, to which was initially endearing is now sadly become a turn off. I recognize that I saw ‘the potential’ in him and mostly wanted to feel safe and loved with someone, which he has definitely made me feel. I am dedicated to self growth and he is not. I declared this importance prior to wedding and he understood, however, I shouldn’t be shocked that he’s not jumping on the band wagon to heal some of his deep seeded wounds that he’s not even aware of. It’s hard for me to sit idle and watch him be ‘stuck’, while I am ready to fly and thrive. I’m worried that we are growing apart because of this.

#2 Thank you, I appreciate that. I’ve had moments of guilt, but ultimately I feel so much better and know I did the right thing. Was your mother BPD too? I haven’t done much beyond read books and process letting go by mountains of crying and journaling. May I ask what you did, or would recommend? i.e. Seeing someone that specializes in BPD?

#3 Very true. I am just in mourning.

With gratitude,
misomojo