Dear loulette:

This is why so many decisions are hard to make, because once you make this decision you lose that, and if you make the other decision you lose the other thing. In your case, if you continue the terminated state of the long distance guy you lose a potential great husband material. If you terminate the relationship with G you lose the sweetness factor. You lose this way and you lose that way. So what to do?

Well, first I would challenge your assumptions: that the long distance guy is a great husband material. Can you list what makes you think so and after that, what makes you think- once you think more- may make him not a great husband?

anita