Hello,

I will only give a short answer- always stay away from these kind of people. I have cut cords with at least 3-4 ‘good friends’ like this in my life, some of them under complicated and difficult circumstances, but I have never regretted doing it. She will not be heartbroken or devastated. her ego will be hurt, but she will find a new victim in no time. So don’t worry about her

And yes, you have to be straightforward, because ‘gradual’ detachment barely works with them… They’d call you and ‘attack you’ every available minute, they never ‘get it’. Don’t feel guilty, it was never your life mission to be someone else’s outlet.
It’s always awkward the first few weeks, but you’ll be glad you did it, trust me…

Best of luck with your path of transition, whatever that is! Saying no to people who drain your life force, and refocusing it on something beneficial is a huge step!