Dear Chau:

She was in the wrong for cheating on you. People in the wrong conveniently come up with a kind of thinking called “convenient thinking”- not true, just convenient. It is very, very common. So she will think (and share with others) what makes her look good.

You, on the other hand, in your first thread here about this relationship took the blame. This is the difference between the two of you. If she started a thread here, it would be about what you did wrong.

There are two main types of people, I realized latterly. One points to others saying: “their fault and let me tell you what they did wrong.” And the second type points to themselves saying: “My fault and these are the things I did wrong.

She is probably pointing to her current girlfriend right now: her fault. Like I ended my previous post to you, I suggest you no longer automatically take the blame, be not the second type. Evaluate as you go along what it is you are responsible for and what the other person is responsible for. Figuring this out is priceless, will save you a whole lot of trouble in future relationships.

Please take good care of yourself. I like your thinking; the changes in your thinking. Post anytime.

anita