Dear shadeinthesummer:

I re-read your posts here and something new occurred to me. It may even be related to your new thread although I don’t know that yet.

You wrote that your father used to be abusive, correct? And you and your mother formed a partnership of sorts against his abuse. Is my understanding correct: that your father is no longer abusive and as a result your partnership with your mother dissolved? Is it correct that once the Common Enemy (your father) was no longer a threat, that your mother’s anger came to the surface, directed against you?

anita