Dear tmeinke301:

It is your choice to not cancel the wedding. It is your choice to marry this man. Making any choice you do make, it will benefit you a whole lot to see reality for what it is.

If you don’t see your boyfriend as an angry man, then what do you think motivates him to be “constantly complaining that things are not clean enough and that I do not work hard enough around the house.”?

If he is not angry, why does he only rarely compliment you and then he adds degradation to the compliment (” It takes a rare occasion for him to give me any sort of compliment and when he does its usually somewhat derogatory”)

If he is not angry, why do you need to stand up for yourself? (“I stand up for myself and he complains” )- stand up for yourself against what or whom?

And if he is not an angry man, why does he accuse you when you buy something inexpensive for yourself (“I am accused of buying unecessary things when I am “broke”)?

I am asking these questions in hope that you will answer. I am asking these questions with the well being of all of you in mind.

anita