Dear Chau:

You wrote that you have no concrete evidence of betrayal by your ex girlfriend and ex friend- well you are alone now with your pain, without a girlfriend or that friend to comfort you- they were there for you, individually, to some extent in the past and now they are gone.

So they left you, if not betrayed you- they are no longer there for you. The evidence for this fact is clear. And so your deep sadness is understandable. It is difficult to bear, to endure, but you will endure it and you will feel better again.

This may be an opportunity to examine childhood loss, betrayal that is probably adding pain to your current loss: a childhood wound that is bleeding into the current wound.

anita