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Actually, we had done a website for our final year project. She was my partner in that project. The project was about exploring music. Many people loved it. We also won couple of project completion. At that moment I had decided to improve the site and launch it for the world to see it.

So in terms of getting in Canada, I applied for the startup Canada program. But that didn’t work out. Then one of her friend (lets call him Mr. D) suggested to take it to a angel investor and apply for funding. His boss was a vc. He told us that we could approach his boss. Aishwarya trusts me.D. He is five years elder to her and is a father. Mr. D said that he’ll be business partner and we can start it in Toronto. So I started getting all the things ready. Made the business model. Made the revenue model. Planned and built further business strategies. At this moment mr.D said that he will fund my air fare as was going to be my business partner over there.

There all problems started. He wanted me to lie to my parents and go to Canada on a business trip. Which I initially disagreed. Then he was ready to talk to my parents about this. So that is when I promised my baby that I’ll surely be there.

After few days, as I was preparing the business plan, I went to couple of lawyers for solving few doubts about intellectual property theft. At that moment, all the lawyers told me not to go ahead with this plan. You cannot trust anyone whom you haven’t met. Too much risks.

I couldn’t tell this to my girl as I knew she would get very upset as I’m not believing her and mr.D. The lawyers had shown me how wrong things can go.

So to keep the cool, I prevented the topic. After this, my second attempt for convincing my parents for education over there started. So somehow, this topic was side lined.

To answer your second question,
We were having frequent fights from mid march. At that time, she had to study as her exams were in April. One fine day, she said that she doesn’t find us “made for each other”. This worried me. I was shattered completely. One of the reason my insecurities increased. Things like these carried on. She had started saying these things as she had lost hopes of ne coming in Toronto. One day, she said that we’ll sort this stuff after her exam was over. At that moment I asked if we were headed for breakup. She declined.

It was a routine for her to message me when she woke up. On her last day of the exam she did not. I knew she was awake. I messaged her to ask that. Then, in the heat of the moment, I again asked if she wanted breakup. She said yes.

That’s where I lost it. :'(

She had totally lost faith in me that I am taking efforts to reach there. She took the frustration out on me many times by saying that “we wont last long” and “Mr.D was providing you such a free opportunity still you did not accept it”

My overall insecurities had completely increased. This Mr.d used to call me and tell me not to disturb her. He used to threat me that he will initiate breakup with my girl if he feels like I am doing something wrong. His threats would increase to such an extent that once he said that he’ll send my girl with other guys for date. He will make the breakup happen. This had started wayy back in February. He was the major reason my insecurities increased. I knew my baby is listening to a wrong person. She is under his influence.

Because of this, my desperation to do over there increased.