Dear jenko88:

I will paraphrase/ summarize your post and ask you if I understand you correctly; if I don’t correct me:

In your one year relationship you were “the fighter” – the one getting angry, often enough. You initiated arguments and fights and escalated them, last one was about what movie to watch. You kept sending him little verbal daggers- nagging. He told you he is okay with who you are except when you are angry at him.

He often enough responded with anger himself, fighting back but got tired of it, felt defeated, drained and he doesn’t want to defend/ fight back anymore. So he broke up with you and you want him back. You told him you are willing to change but didn’t tell him what you need to change and how you are going to accomplish that.

Am I correct? Another question: did you have conversations before the breakup about the fighting and anger between the two of you?

anita