Dear Marsh:

Regarding how to take the hold of the steering wheel: in the smallest things but you have to notice those small things, these small opportunities before you steer the wheel. Notice the nature of your interactions with the people in your life: family, acquaintances, strangers and instead of being passive and going with what others want, figure out what you want (in every interaction) and assert yourself. Learn the skill of Assertiveness. And practice it every day.

Regarding the woman, missing her- that is the natural force of attachment. You got attached to her, not unlike a boy being attached to a parent. It is attachment, feels quite powerful. But just as a boy is attached to a bad parent, a man can be attached to a bad (for you) girlfriend/ ex girlfriend.

See it as Attachment. She is still unreliable and not good for you. Do the right thing for you regardless of this attachment. Block online, if it will help you, absolutely. Post again, anytime.

anita