Dear miniaturebodhisattiva:

I disagree with your conclusion that you “still have a ways to go in learning to control (your) emotions”- that is that your crying to this guy was a mistake. Strongly disagree. I will explain: there was nothing abusive about your crying. You felt sadness, frustration and so you cried. Nothing wrong with it. He didn’t like it AND there was nothing wrong about your crying. His discomfort with it stems not from him being … above such emotions but by his problems with emotions.

Like I wrote, the concept of detachment probably appeals to him a whole lot. It is a good principle to practice … in moderation (another Buddhist principle, Moderation). We can’t divorce ourselves from having emotions, no matter how detached we try to be; neither is it healthy to be divorced from our emotions.

anita