Dear Jorgeplath:

You wrote: “I have recently changed up my career path. i did it because strong personal reasons.”

The key term here for me is “personal reasons”- these are all the reasons that matter in your choice: PERSONAL. If you are an adult, you are not married, have no children and are okay with the possibility of not having children in the future- then personal reasons are the only reasons that should guide you.

It should not be about Parental Reasons: what do my parents want me to do? It should not be Societal Reasons: what does society deem valuable? It should not be Wife-to-be Reasons: what would a future wife want in me?

It should be personal. But then, you have to be okay about your parents’ disapproval, societal disapproval and the possibility of being a less attractive choice for some women. You have to endure the distress of some other people disapproving your choice.

You wrote: “One of them (personal reasons) was because it was not letting me develop my passion, that is musical theatre. I was a medicine student, which became very depressing for me at the end.”

It will be distressing somehow to risk and to experience the disapproval of some others, for not taking the secure-income route. It is between this distress and the depression you experienced.

What is your focus: others or yourself? And if you do choose yourself, then be prepared for the distress and also, be prepared for the possible future consequences financially.

Please do post again.

anita