Dear Felix:

Like you wrote in a previous thread: you are not an idiot (your words). And I agree. You can think logically, you are qualified for a good job, as qualified, I imagine, as your friends to whom you compare yourself.

There is one thing that is holding you back, as I see it, and I am not referring to Luck. I think that what is holding you back, what is draining you every day- in addition to the life circumstances you described, such as unemployment- is you giving yourself a hard time. I can almost “hear” that inner critic of yours telling yourself these negative things, making negative evaluations about you, even calling yourself “an idiot”-

This abusive inner critic, or as I call it, the inner bully is draining you. It makes everything more difficult. If you take on the task of changing the way you talk to yourself, being kind and gentle to yourself, life will be better for you, I have no doubt. Only it takes willingness, hard work and patience.

anita