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Dear shanola:
As to my question and your answer: I understand now what you meant, that there was no point in asking her questions when you knew it was over, that there is nothing you can do to make the relationship alive again.
But later, of course, you did not give up on it, you still hoped and so you called her.
She lives in Florida and you planned on moving to Florida for school and to be near her, am I correct? Now the school plan in Florida still exists but you wonder if you should move there?
You wrote that you feel that you are starting to go crazy, “crazy for you” is one line from a love song that comes to my mind. Emotional distress is another term. You miss her, you want her in your life so much and you feel crazy wanting her so intensely.
Best for you is to take deep breaths every time you feel that desire, that refusal to give into reality, and accept reality. It is done. The relationship is over.
You wish it wasn’t – but it is. Wishing will not make it so. It is a waste of time and energy. Wish for a loving relationship in your future, you naturally need that and can have that, only not with her. Feel what you feel and let the feelings go, again and again, best you can.
anita