Hi liquidsnake,

Parting ways with someone you were close with for a year and a half must feel excruciating. Know that you will feel better eventually (they say it takes about three months before we return to our baseline level of happiness), and that she is likely hurting, too. Just because you have parted ways for now doesn’t mean that you will never get to be with her again. It sounds like you two were too close to not always care for each other. You might not marry her, but maybe once the pain heals she can become like a best friend.

Also, know that you are making the pain worse worse with thoughts you are allowing yourself to think “day in and day out”. Thoughts are what creates feelings, and even though it may not seem this way now, you can start to control your thoughts more. As soon as you notice you are indulging a negative thought, just cut it off. Don’t get caught up in it. Return to the present through your breath and listening to the faintest of sounds. The more you practice taming your thoughts, the calmer you will feel, which may also help you with future relationships.