Hey Liquidsnake/Jay,

One good piece of advice I got at the lowest point of my life was “let it all go.” You can make yourself feel crappier and crappier wondering why she left, or what happened, but you won’t know for sure. Or you just say, “all right, that happened, now the only way to go is forward.” Start fresh. Anytime you feel yourself slipping “backwards” by thinking about the past, shift instead toward focusing on where you want to go (which is why it’s important that you have a general idea of where that is). Use this life transition to decide on how you can progress toward the person you want to be.

Good luck!