Hi Mamad,

Thank you for taking the time to read my post and responding.

And thank you for the book recommendation, I will buy it and read it. Maybe it will help me come to terms with everything. It’s a struggle I’m having now; I’m trying to understand his mind but I just can’t. And I can’t understand why he can’t see his error. Sometimes it is just so blatantly obvious.

I’m also going through a lot of self-doubt. He has constantly criticised my character. He has said things to me no one has ever told me before. He has criticised aspects of me that others have complemented. I know I’m not perfect, but the things he has said to me has been engrained into my head that I am a bad human being and that I am the problem. I have to keep reminding myself to step outside of my shoes and look at the situation from an external point of view to know that the problem was not me. But it’s really brought down my self-esteem, and then he tells me I’ve got confidence issues.

Good on you, Mamad, for working with women who have been trying to escape abusive relationships for years. I really appreciate your work.

All the best to you 🙂

Aballa